My niece is 11 and wears high heels all the time. Should I be worried?

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Lisa K asked:

My brother and his wife encourage her and even buy these types of shoes for her. She is into wedges and stilettoes, I couldn’t believe how high they were last time I saw her. She wears them casually out to play! I do NOT agree with this. What should I do/say?



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17 Responses to 'My niece is 11 and wears high heels all the time. Should I be worried?'

  1. i am 14 - October 13th, 2009 at 11:53 pm

    dont do anything my little sis is the same way only she is 11 and we know she will get over it since she is a tomboy in heels

  2. Mary - October 14th, 2009 at 8:07 am

    Nothing, you are not her parent. Her parents should decide how to raise their own kids.

  3. Pauline B - October 16th, 2009 at 10:24 am

    I am a teacher and know how FAST girls can grow up. She is too young for heels. She may be interested in grown up stuff but we need to keep them young as long as possible. A student of mine has a 12 year old sister that just had a baby. It’s crazy!

  4. bballchampion13 - October 19th, 2009 at 1:00 pm

    just let them deel with it
    its not your kid and i know u love her but let her parents do whatever
    GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

  5. ahammondtx@sbcglobal.net - October 22nd, 2009 at 8:21 pm

    I think some of the clothing and shoes they sell for little girls mock grown ups clothing way too much now days. You see 10 year olds in clothes their 17 yr old sister would be wearing. Its not appropriate, but some people think its cute. You are not her parent but maybe you can make little comments ( without offending ) that she is growing up a bit too fast, or how she could hurt herself. You are her aunt and a part of her life so your opinion might sink in on them as long as they don’t feel like their parenting is under attack.

  6. jamiehamster - October 25th, 2009 at 1:59 pm

    your not the parent. its not up to you to decide ojn how to raise your neice. its up to the parents, so **** out.

  7. Jessica-* - October 27th, 2009 at 5:29 pm

    Well im 12 And i wear heels mostly cause when i was 5 i hung out with A older girl and i still do and taht made me grow to be older.. but im still young.. i mean i dont play with barbies or babies.. But Heels are my life and fashion and purses! Loves it

  8. bonillachristina - October 28th, 2009 at 2:23 pm

    there is nothing wrong with that!! i envy her that she is able to walk let alone play in them!! i cant walk in a pair to save my life!! she is normal this is normal girl behavior i have 11 year old twin nieces and they do the same thing in fact my sister and i encourage it!! and so does there dad :)

  9. spoiledprincess - October 29th, 2009 at 3:02 am

    You should talk to her and see how she feels about all of it. Then talk to your brother and his wife about your feelings. Then try to make a deal to help keep her young and out of trouble, but still let her wear the shoes she likes.

  10. brianzubek - October 29th, 2009 at 5:30 pm

    theres nothign wrong where a pair of heels. id be more concirend about tank tops and short skirts… oh and i smack my little girl if i ever saw her in a thong… (relax i dont even have a little girl) it all starts young just a good upbringing and education is what will keep her smart and making good decisions even if she looks fabulous doing it!

    has any one else knoticed very young girls wearing half tops or little tanks fallign off… parents let them where this stuff liek its nothing… or walk around with no shirt just becuse they havent developed much yet.. well suprise suprise when little jany grows so ******* and still lets it all hang out

  11. sotiedup - October 30th, 2009 at 7:19 pm

    nothing ur not encharg of her and the worst thing that can possibly happen 2 her is she can fall but besides that ur not enchage of her

  12. whtecloud - November 2nd, 2009 at 2:55 am

    I so totally agree with you but seeing as how you are only her aunt, not her parent, I don’t think there’s really anything you can say especially since her parents are encouraging it. It’s just something we have to except in our society today. It’s all over TV, magazines, music videos. Kids see all this and I guess you can say learn from it as well. Little girls are growing up faster than we ever did. I think anything you say or do will offend her parents, especially as you say, they both encourage it. We just have to grin and bare it. Grrrr.

  13. Nicholais S - November 2nd, 2009 at 6:39 pm

    take them from her.

  14. mel-mel - November 6th, 2009 at 12:32 am

    u really cant do anything but since shes young teaching her how to walk in heels are good but its bad cause ******** are in the world and they might think shes grown

  15. Summer4evergal - November 7th, 2009 at 8:28 pm

    well, if a child is under 16 it is bad for them to wear high heels because there feet are not done growing and their feet will become deformed and she will not beable to walk. please tell ur bro cuz he is practally immobilizing his daughter!

  16. RACHEL L - November 8th, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    i am a teen it’s natural for her she may be trying to attract boys when she go out in public maybe u should talk to her parents sometimes grown men find that attractive.

  17. akoolsis - November 10th, 2009 at 7:47 pm

    no we just want to grow up faster iti s okay


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